Recently, I have heard a few guys lament their inability to “get girls” because said girls always go for assholes. I am of the firm belief that the only men who subscribe to this nonsense are, in fact, assholes (or at the very least just clueless).
I think there is some truth in the idea that girls who are “conventionally hot” may overlook a perfectly “nice” guy in favor of someone who’s more on par with her looks-wise. I think it is also true that many guys will overlook smart, funny, (maybe unconventionally) attractive women in favor for these “conventionally hot” girls. Then, whoever said “hot girls” decide to date automatically become “assholes” who could never love them the way our “nice guy” could. Meanwhile, our “nice guy” is completely discounting the girl who is a little nerdy or too tall and lanky or otherwise not a blonde bombshell.
Some girls truly do date assholes. But that probably has more to do with the patriarchy and how it affects their self-esteem/self-worth than it does with a preference for being treated poorly.
And then there are girls who truly prefer the “bad boy” type, sans daddy issues/a need to “change” the men in their lives. And you know what? That’s their prerogative. If you’re allowed to be attracted to porn stars and cheerleaders, we’re are allowed to swoon over the “bad boy.”
If you’re a guy who’s complaining that “nice guys finish last” (which they should do in bed, by the way) take a look at yourself and the girls you’re pursuing. Then look at the ones you’ve tossed aside.Then maybe you get to complain. Maybe.