#sex

The Biological Reality of Sex and Chromosomal Abnormalities

This was mentioned by snowflakeespecial and I’m reblogging for future reference. It outlines the biology of sex so clearly & thoroughly, and explains why it’s NOT OKAY to use the intersex population as pawns in arguments about sex/gender/biology.

leaveitopen:

callingoutbigotry:

angstierthanthou:

invaderxan:

astro-stoner:

I found this in my developmental psychology textbook.

Disappointing.

Why’d you have to go and make me question my relationship with my father

I hate when people say “women just don’t understand math and science” LIKE MAYBE WE NEVER HAD A CHANCE TO LEARN THAT SHIT

socialization is not reel u transmisogynists

nooo you don’t gain any social capital for living as a male from a young age
Side note: my dad was always super great about explaining science-y things to me, even when I just wanted a simple “yes” or “no” answer. Thanks, dad!

leaveitopen:

callingoutbigotry:

angstierthanthou:

invaderxan:

astro-stoner:

I found this in my developmental psychology textbook.

Disappointing.

Why’d you have to go and make me question my relationship with my father

I hate when people say “women just don’t understand math and science” LIKE MAYBE WE NEVER HAD A CHANCE TO LEARN THAT SHIT

socialization is not reel u transmisogynists

nooo you don’t gain any social capital for living as a male from a young age

Side note: my dad was always super great about explaining science-y things to me, even when I just wanted a simple “yes” or “no” answer. Thanks, dad!

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Cosmo sex tip #262

Wanna take his breath away during sex?
Rip out his lungs. 

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10 Sizzling Sex Tips For Mind-Blowing Misandry

misandristsextips:

feminspire:

Ever wanted to make your sex life a little more misandrist? Of course you have!

6. Try taking an erotic bubble bath together in a tub full of his male tears.”

Pure. Gold.

Let’s talk about how I’m interested in guys but the second they show too much enthusiasm I’m OVER IT. Fickle? Maybe. Just… calm down, buddy. If you’re this eager so early on, it makes me think you’re going to be the clingy type and I get claustrophobic before the first date even happens.

At first I was like “whoa, I’m a huge bitch for saying that,” but then I realized that I (and most people!) are like that with friends, too. Like, if someone asks if you want to hang out every day for the rest of your lives within 5 minutes of meeting you, an alarm goes off, yeah?

Too much too soon.

A rant about penises (kind of)

I’ve been catching up on my podcasts in the past few days, and I listened to the July 11th episode of Sex Nerd Sandra during my lunch break today. The episode was titled “Does Size Matter?” and was about, needless to say, penis size and the anxiety many men have surrounding it.
 
It got me thinking about how often we talk about the fragile male ego and the need to reassure our men that yes, they are big enough and yes, they are satisfying us.
 
Do you know where this obsession with big dicks comes from? The fuckin’ patriarchy. Dudes, I just can’t feel bad for you if you’re the “victim” of a system perpetrated by your own gender. Maybe if you didn’t establish the penis as the ultimate symbol of masculinity (and masculinity as the most important element of power) you wouldn’t be in this situation. It’s not my job to reassure you! If anything, I’m the one who’s viewed as a piece of meat on a daily basis before my clothes ever come off.
 
And, for the record, as a woman who has sex with men, I’m gonna go ahead and say that size does matter to an extent. You can know what you’re doing and be a generous partner, but sometimes it really isn’t enough. Sorry! But if it makes you feel any better, I learned in this podcast episode that 85% of women are happy with their partner’s penis size, whereas only 55% of men are happy with themselves. So it’s probably all in your head!

Most of Nerve’s sex confessions were not all that funny… but THIS ONE

I saw this article on Buzzfeed about how women shouldn’t let men pay for the first date. Or, at the very least, they should offer to split the bill. I am generally of the opinion that it’s polite to offer, but if a guy pays for my meal it’s not The End of Feminism. The woman who wrote this article suggests calling a restaurant ahead of time to give your credit card number if a guy is really insistent on paying. She calls this “going the extra mile,” but I think it’s controlling and creepy.

 

Look, treating someone to dinner or drinks is just a nice gesture. When I’ve been in relationships, the guy and I have generally alternated between splitting the bill and one paying for the other. No one ever expected the other person to pick up the whole tab, but it was a nice surpise when they did. And yes, I let guys pay on the first date. I always offer to to pay my portion, and then to pay tax & tip. If he refuses both, I say “thank you” and smile. This is what happens more often than not, and I don’t think it makes me a person who is subjecting myself to the patriarchy. I’m just letting a guy who is interested in getting to know me do a nice thing.

 

I’m also not particularly against hetero relationships where the guy always pays on dates. I’m not interested in telling anyone how their relationship should work if it’s making both parties happy. So, basically, the TL;DR repsonse to that article is: STFU, I do what I want. And so do the guys I date.

Just learned while listening to the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast that women in the 1940s and 50s who enjoyed clitoral stimulation were assumed to be lesbians. It seems ridiculous until you think about the fact that we view men & prostate stimulation in the same way to this day.

What happens when both parties are too drunk and sex happens?

bitchesguidetoetiquette:

Discuss. 

I’m basing this on NY state law, which does not prohibit a person from consenting to sex while under the influence of alcohol/other drugs unless the substance was administered to the person without their knowledge or that person was rendered unconscious by said substance.

Look, it’s unrealistic to assume that people are only going to have sex when they’re 100% sober, and it’s not helpful to tell men that they’re raping every time they meet someone at a party and take them home. It’s also not helpful (or correct) to tell women that they forfeit any right to claim they were sexually assaulted as soon as they ingest a substance. There is no black-and-white “you’re a rapist if you do X” or “you can’t claim you were raped if you did y.”

Alcohol and other substances impair judgement. It might make you do things you wouldn’t normally do, more susceptible to being “taken advantage of,” or it might compromise your ability to tell if your partner is entirely into what you’re doing. So here’s what you do:

  • Give (and ask for) clear, enthusiastic, verbal consent before the encounter occurs.
  • Check in periodically throughout the encounter. Stop if your partner hesitates or says no. Ask your partner to stop if you feel at all uncomfortable. The best part about this one? It can coincide with dirty talk. (“Do you like the way I’m xing your y?”) (“Let’s not do x. But I really want you to do y”)
  • When in doubt, stop.

This is a really, really complicated issue. I have known people who have been on both sides of it. I think we can reduce the number of these instances with a little bit of education. Conveniently, next month is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, so I’ll probably be posting about that. :)

On “Nice Guys”

Recently, I have heard a few guys lament their inability to “get girls” because said girls always go for assholes. I am of the firm belief that the only men who subscribe to this nonsense are, in fact, assholes (or at the very least just clueless).

I think there is some truth in the idea that girls who are “conventionally hot” may overlook a perfectly “nice” guy in favor of someone who’s more on par with her looks-wise. I think it is also true that many guys will overlook smart, funny, (maybe unconventionally) attractive women in favor for these “conventionally hot” girls. Then, whoever said “hot girls” decide to date automatically become “assholes” who could never love them the way our “nice guy” could. Meanwhile, our “nice guy” is completely discounting the girl who is a little nerdy or too tall and lanky or otherwise not a blonde bombshell.

Some girls truly do date assholes. But that probably has more to do with the patriarchy and how it affects their self-esteem/self-worth than it does with a preference for being treated poorly.

And then there are girls who truly prefer the “bad boy” type, sans daddy issues/a need to “change” the men in their lives. And you know what? That’s their prerogative. If you’re allowed to be attracted to porn stars and cheerleaders, we’re are allowed to swoon over the “bad boy.”

If you’re a guy who’s complaining that “nice guys finish last” (which they should do in bed, by the way) take a look at yourself and the girls you’re pursuing. Then look at the ones you’ve tossed aside.Then maybe you get to complain. Maybe.

thedailywhat:

Sex 2.0 of the Day: To coincide with National Condom Week, Planned Parenthood last week launched a new campaign that invites sex havers to “check in” after they finish (safely) bumping uglies.

Some 55,000 “smart condoms” were distributed by Planned Parenthood of the Great Northwest to students at colleges in western Washington. Each condom has a QR code on the package that can be scanned with a smartphone to identify the user’s location.

A website, WhereDidYouWearIt.com, was set up to let people anonymous notify others where they did the horizontal mambo, and leave a short message about their experience.

“We hope the site promotes discussions within relationships about condoms and helps to remove perceived stigmas that some people may have about condom use,” said the Planned Parenthood branch’s new media coordinator Nathan Engebretson.

If you’re planning on engaging in one these, ahem, condom discussions, a good place to start would be how to wear one.

[livescience.]

I think this is really strange a little misguided. The campaign would be much more effective if people were able to check in after they’ve gotten free condoms from somewhere. That would a) not bar as many people from participating and b) be more effective in getting people to use condoms because it would tell them how to access said condoms. 

Just saying.

I am pretty sure that if this were required reading for everyone, the patriarchy would come down in shambles… and it’s not even a “feminist” work. This was an incredible read, and I highly recommend it to anyone who’s looking for some nonfiction to read.

I am pretty sure that if this were required reading for everyone, the patriarchy would come down in shambles… and it’s not even a “feminist” work. This was an incredible read, and I highly recommend it to anyone who’s looking for some nonfiction to read.

Got that, fellas? If you’re unhappy at the amount of sexual opportunity in your life, don’t blame the women. Instead, make sure they have equal access to power, wealth, and status. Then watch what happens.
Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality